Fulfilment: My Post Holiday Resolutions Five Months On

Remember, when I got back from holiday and I was full of…

Jet lag?

Yes… No…

OK, after holiday, once I’d been to see our ‘Yonce?

Ah, yes, when you made those resolutions? Things you were inspired to do, or try, having seen another corner of the world?

Indeed I did, and the other day I uncovered the page in my notebook where I scrawled them down, so I thought I’d give you a quick update on how I’m getting along.

Start doing yoga again – You may recall I was reluctant to start this again for fear that too many inversions might aggravate my detached retina. However, my eye surgeon seemed to think it would be fine (although he did tell me to steer clear of martial arts, bungee jumping and sky-diving). Since then? Well I’ve not signed up to any yoga classes as yet simply because the days clashed with other things and there’s no point paying for a term of lessons if you can only attend a couple. I have been doing the odd routine at home though. I’m not where I want to be with my yoga just yet, but I am back to enjoying it every once in a while again so it’s a good start.

Find out my Ayurvedic type – Erm, I’ve done precisely nothing about this. I google local practitioners, look at the costs, worry they’re going to give me an enema and then close the laptop and walk away. Big. Fat. Fail.

From Pinterest

Buddhism – Again, I’ve not done much in terms of this since getting back from Sri Lanka (unless you count pinning inspirational Buddhist quotes onto my ‘Sayings I like’ board on Pinterest? Or stroking my cotton bracelet given to me by a monk). That said, there’s a Buddhist group meeting in my vicinity from 3rd September, so I’ve added it to the calendar and will pop along to see what it’s all about. For some reason I feel quite nervous about it which is completely daft. I’ll let you know how I get on.

#latergram #lunch #sushi 🍤🍣

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Learn how to make sushi – Nope, not done anything. Well, I’ve eaten a bit of sushi and found a really good place at Merry Hill to buy fresh sushi, but nothing in terms of making my own, sorry!

Master eye-liner – I have purchased some gel eye-liner. I have even gone so far as to apply it on a number of occasions, but that’s not to say I’ve mastered it just yet. Oh no, far from it. Look out for a blog post on this very subject in the coming weeks!

Learn to swim – We’re thinking of going on holiday again in September. How amazing would it be if I could confidently jump in the pool and complete a few lengths? To be honest, I’d settle for wading in and completing a couple of widths! My nearest leisure centre now only hosts adult swimming lessons on weekdays, which for full-time worker – like me – is useless. I have found some courses not far away that I may try. I just want to source some prescription goggles first. Being nervous of water AND not being able to see properly might be more than my worry-wart brain can cope with. I’ll be looking to source those in the next month.

Eat more healthy – Well I did try. I wouldn’t say I’m massively healthy at the moment, but the desire to get back on track with the salad and vegetables is still there… it’s just that the pizza and cake is more tempting…

So, that’s where I’m at five months in. Baby steps, but not great shakes – right? I’ll keep you updated on how I progress through the rest of the year.

How do you make sure you stay on track with your goals?



Fulfilment: My Words of Wisdom



I found this in a notebook when I was having a sort through over the weekend and it made me smile. I thought I’d share it with you in the hope that it brightens your Monday.

Just in case you can’t see the image it says:

You get back what you put in.
Work hard.
Be true to yourself.
Be kind.
Take time to enjoy the moment.
Focus. Breathe. Dance.
Play your music loudly.
Sing along badly.

What words of wisdom do you live by?



Fulfillment: A Note on Acceptance

I was listening to the breakfast show on Radio 2 the other week. Chris Evans was interviewing (my former teenage crush) Chesney Hawkes and somehow got onto the subject of acceptance. Once the interview had wrapped up, Chris continued to muse on the importance of acceptance in order to be happy with your lot and I have to say I’m inclined to agree.

There are many versions of the serenity prayer, the one I’ve chosen above is neither appropriate for me (I’m pretty much an atheist), or for its intended purpose (it’s often used at AA meetings), but hey I thought it was a fun take on the mantra. There is, of course, the traditional version.

Or the Robbie Williams version where he substitutes ‘God’ for ‘Elvis’ (and why not?)

In my younger years I would constantly whinge that life wasn’t fair. I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t have it all. I didn’t want to have to work for it, I didn’t even want to have to wait for it, I wanted it all now and, preferably, for free. I couldn’t fathom why people wouldn’t want the same things as me. I tried to change people, to mould them into what I thought they should be. I continually felt out of sorts and as if ‘one day’ everything would fall into place.

I guess you could say that one day it did. Although I think it was more like a culmination of days. Acceptance is not something to be taken lightly. If you’re not careful acceptance can become not trying. It can easily turn into ‘well that’s my lot, why bother’ and that’s not helpful to anyone. But neither is thinking you’re going to be a millionaire someday when you’re clearly not, or believing you could be a pop star when you’re actually tone-deaf. Believing otherwise only leaves you discontented.

It’s all about having a happy medium, believing in yourself and challenging yourself but in areas that you know you are adept in, or skills that you really want to work on. You need to appreciate that if it’s something you really want, you’re going to have to work for it and sometimes you’re going to have to work hard. Likewise, it’s about not beating yourself up when things don’t go to plan. Not getting cross with other people when they don’t do what you want them to do. Not pushing yourself to the point of burn-out when it was never really your thing anyway.

Here are some of the things I’ve accepted (and, yes, I’m more content as a result of that acceptance)…

  • I’ll never be a natural runner – it’s something I’ll always have to work at.
  • I’ll never be able to do clean eating 100% – if I try to eat healthy 100% of the time I rebel and gorge myself on junk food. A daily diet of 75% healthy food, 25% naughty treats keeps me on the wagon for longer.
  • I may well lose my sight. I appreciate that sounds melodramatic and I don’t mean it to be. But it’s something I have to think about. I don’t dwell on it in a melancholy way, I just use it as a reminder to appreciate all the things I can see around me today (Sahara-induced smog as I write this!).
  • I’ll never have the relationship I’d like to have with certain members of my family.
  • Sometimes people are just grumpy and there’s nothing you can do to cheer them up. Just leave them be.
  • I don’t have the patience for sewing, knitting, or any such handicraft – although I do try!
  • If you want something badly enough, you’ll find a way to get it.
  • I will always need chocolate in my life.
  • Some people just don’t like coffee (although I’m still highly suspicious as to how these people get through the day..!).
  • People will rip the piss out of me for fancying Chesney Hawkes!

What do you think, is acceptance important for your happiness?